Gameplay comes first, if the game also looks nice, then it is ideal.
But good graphic don‘t mean it needs to be super photorealistic, good graphic is something that means it is a good design in its whole.
Don‘t Starve and Oxygen Not Included are very good examples of good gameplay and good graphic, even the graphic is just a 2D Comic.
I always need ages to decide for the look of my character.
All depends on the possibility the game gives me at character creation.
The look need to fit well to my imagined story of her, because i need to run in that look for long time and nothing is more disapointing, if you play a while and you realize you can‘t get well with your look.
I think for the most player it not really matter if the character is male, female or just an it, as long they just play PVE/PVP. But some try to play their roles, playing around with the gender they chosed.
I heard in the past from several males, that they play female like, because then „they get more attention/stuff/help“ as long the other don‘t figured out, they are not a real woman.
@gothix said in Cross-gender playing:
@Kralith so like for example running around yelling oh my boobs are so large, touch them, touch them!
How you can imagine thats not a woman in real? 
@nightcoder indeed, if you don‘t talk in your native language, it is more complicated to target them.
But it starts with the chosen cloths, goes over used smiles/emotes, till the small things in spoken thoughts.
Mostly it is the combination of many small things, that is used to unhide a man behind a female character.
Some are very obvisious, some just a gut feeling.
My Mains are usually women, but sometimes there is a male character involved in my mainly played characters.
For me this are mostly also more feminine characters, because i‘m not a man and can‘t think like a man.
I understand that man/boys like to play female characters, especially in games where they are sexy. But very often you can easily unhide them as a real woman. 
@jetah agree, chatspam is terrible, therefor a blackboard is better.
But your first statement i don‘t understand... i just want no idiots in my groups. So GoGoGo!11 people, you know.
If we get an automatical tool, the whole server will turn into a „Renndumm“ (translated „Run dumb“, an equal sounded german synonyme for Random) game, as we germans call the dungeonfinder tools ala WoW. And in this case an automatical port does not matter, an idiot stays an idiot, if he/she has to run or not.
@jetah i don‘t mind a kind of groupfinder (per example a global blackboard), where you can announce your planned expeditions. But it should be always this way, that it is just used to find people in a manually way.
I always hated the automatically join function, because i want the decision by myself or my friends which people should join our group.
